Reactive or Pro-active
Pro-activity is a business trait all organizations look for. It is one of the most important behaviors talent managers look for and is expected of everybody in the company. But sometimes ( for some, most of the time) some people confuse pro-activity with trying too hard to please someone and to agree with everything they say, in a way which other people find unpleasant.
This is a sensitive mater for all and I will not go into details, but it does feel very unpleasant when situations like this occurs, specially if you and your colleagues are not used to such activities. Although it is very hard to substantiate as it is more of a feeling than an objective observation, it does affect everybody as engaging in this type of activity is very visible and will irritate everyone around.
So, how does one cope up with such a situation......
Some would say ignore and others will say confront the person. I did find a seemingly good advice on the net...
"So, how do you deal with the Kiss Ass? Easy, use them as your source of information. The Kiss Ass knows everything about everyone, I bet they even know a few things about you, and this is the key to getting ahead. Slowly, but surely, gain this persons trust. Tell them how you appreciate their hard work and determination in spite of everyone else's negative perceptions. Tell them you think they should be in management and do little things to let them know you have their back. Do not overstep your bounds or let others see you be too friendly as this could clash with your coworkers ideals and get you blacklisted. Once you have the ear of the Kiss Ass, and have a good amount of information on everyone in the office, you can begin to use them as a sounding board because you now also have the ear of management. Say good things to the Kiss Ass and they will be heard by the office authoritarian. In time, and with the cunning of a fox, you may even have this Kiss ASS as your own lapdog."
from : http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/12/05/134559.php
But, I feel that it seems you are playing the same game and that you have gone down to his level. In analyzing the situation, I think the best action is to be pro-active don't the situation bother you, focus on what you need to do and let go of the situation or the moment, it will be hard but I feel that all bad things come back to haunt you and all good things will be rewarded, I may sound a little too optimistic but I believe that keeping up a face that is not a true reflection of your inner self takes it's toll on a person, no one can truly keep it up forever and all the bad things you have done will eventually come back and bite you in the a%$.
Also, think of it this way, you have to be careful not to be like what you despise, as if you are irritated at someone, there is a tendency, in your subconscious, that you are also capable of doing such and so you must be extra careful not to cross the line.
One can be pro-active without disrupting the peace, it is only a matter of objective, the purpose and goal of your activities must be pure and good without expecting accolades and recognition at the end, If we do truly love what we are doing then we are not working and we do all these things because we love to do it and it truly satisfies us internally.
The goal or objective therefore is true inner satisfaction and fulfillment, once this becomes the driving force of our activities, it re-inforces our passion and drive to work and all our endeavors will shine like a diamond among stones.
I also believe that all things happen for a reason and everything will come to us in it's due time.